What you think you become, is what you will become. There are many quotes and sayings that goes along that line, but few understands its implications. Our mind is like an armoury that forges the weapons that we use to destroy ourselves. It is thus imperative that we change that armoury to one that creates something of better value to our lives. And with so doing, change our character to better suit a life which we wish we want:

The successful, happy life.

“Man is made or unmade by himself; in the armory of thought he forges the
weapons by which he destroys himself. He also fashions the tools with
which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and
peace. By the right choice and true application of thought, man ascends to
the Divine Perfection; by the abuse and wrong application of thought, he
descends below the level of the beast. Between these two extremes are all
the grades of character, and man is their maker and master.”

- James Allen

Smile!
Jeff

Man is buffeted by circumstances so long as he believes himself to be the
creature of outside conditions. But when he realizes that he may command
the hidden soil and seeds of his being out of which circumstances grow, he
then becomes the rightful master of himself.

How true it is, that we are our own garderner of our garden. For as huge the world outside may seem, the power to perceive it lies within our own minds.

Remember: The mastery of our minds will be the most liberating manner to eliminate worries forever!

Smile!
Jeff

It is a good habit for all of us to cultivate the habit of ‘profitting from our losses’. It is by this method in which we can live our lives as constant winners, for we never ever ‘lose’ per-say, whatever situation happens.

By taking only the profits, you always win. And to do so, you need to learn the powerful method of finding a ‘learning’ point in every step of your life. What is the lesson this situation is teaching you? Definately there is something to learn. Even if you lose very embarassly, what is the taking point out of it? Perhaps it might be teaching you to be more prepared next time? Perhaps it might be not to think too highly of yourselves and look down too lightly on others?

The possibilities are endless to which we can win, if we know how to think positive, and profit from our losses.

Smile!
Jeff

Don’t you absolutely hate criticism?

It makes you feel lousy, useless, worthless.
It reveals your true weaknesses to the world.
Your bad traits that you were trying to hide from others, all exhibited and made public.

Your blood boils. Your head spins. Your breathing deep. You are in fight or flight mode.

What does the criticiser have that is better than you, anyways?

It’s not nice to be criticised indeed. But here is a way to help you get over that.

Taken from Dale Carnegie, one of the best self-improvement coaches in his time..

The idea that ‘no one ever kicks a dead dog”.

The fact that people are criticising you can only mean one thing: you took notice of you. Of what benefits does the criticiser have for releasing that nasty comment on you? Definately there must be some sort of benefit to him/her..we all do things for our own profit.

The answer? He is probably envious of you.

S/he criticised you because he gets satisfaction out of doing it. And remember, the more important or powerful you are, the more satisfaction s/he gains from doing so.

No one ever ‘kicks a dead dog’, the father of Robert Hutchins said when his son was inaugurated as 4th President of the University of Chicago at the age of 30.

How true it is. Think about it. If you were just a normal, ‘in-the-crowd’ and by-the-street passerby, would s/he criticise you? Would she even bother spending her time thinking about you? If s/he did criticise you, will s/he gain anything?

My answer is No, s/he wouldn’t. Unless you were of someone important, then the satisfaction is returned in the form of a cheap gleeful strike at you. The fact that s/he has the ability to make that comment, will make him or her feel pleasure doing so.

So always remember, ‘No one ever kicks a dead dog’, and you can guarantee criticism towards you will always sound like secret hidden praises!

Smile!
Jeff

I would like to point you to the release of the new ebook, ‘Stop Worrying Now!’. This ebook contains quick information and tips that is practical and can be used by you to stop you worrying.

Click on the above link titled “Stop Worrying Now Ebook” for more information!

The choice to stop worrying now is decided by no one else but you.

If you always wanted a little boost and guidance to help you get your life straighten up, I highly suggest you give it a read.

If you apply the tips to your life and it does not work, I guarantee your money back.

What is there to lose?

Smile always,
Jeff

Exercise ‘burns’ worrying too!

Filling up your life with activities is a surefire way to minimise worrying. You prevent yourself from giving you any chance to worry.

Playing competitive sports with friends will get you into a quick thinking, fast reacting sportsman who really do not bother about what others talk about you when you are trying to get past that defender to the goal.

Practicing your techniques in sports will keep you fully focus on you improving (if you have the desire, of course) your form and forgetting about what will happen in a imaginary negative conclusion ou created.

Lifting weights and swimming will perhaps keep you gasping for air (do it intense!) and watching your lifting form or swimming strokes, keeping worry the furthest thing away from your thoughts.

Does it end there? NO! After exercising, fatigue starts to kick in. Hunger becomes more obvious. You spend time eating, you spend time sleeping, and if you were with friends, you spend time socialising.

Leave little to NO time to worry in your days!

Smile
Jeff

Just want to say that I’ve started my own newsletter for tips on how to stop worrying. It’s absolutely free, absolutely spam-safe, and absolutely useful!

So do join for a free newsletter that gives you simple tips to minimise YOU worrying.

Do note though: Only YOU and the ACTIONS you take will change your life.

Stay happy!
Jeff

If you answer yes to the questions above…

STOP doing those NOW!

There is no point in doing any of those. As I always say, whatever thoughts you have are all created by no one but YOU.

Not your boss.
Not your partner.
Not your family.
Not even your dog nor the stranger sitting beside you on the public train.

But YOU.

So focus on the ‘now’, and stop thinking about the past. Nothing can change it. Even Superman can’t. Even God couldn’t. So why bother?

Let go of thoughts of the future. It will come soon, and you can experience it then. You do not have to do so now. The now, is your time, the only one that you can use, feel, taste, and actually CHANGE.

Stop worrying now!
Jeff

This quote cannot be further from the truth. Whatever your situation now, wherever you are, how old you are or whatever your status in life or in society is, the fact still remain: you are only as happy and contented with what you think.

So many times we have heard of celebrities and famous or rich people getting into depression. The average human can only wonder: if I have so much power and money, won’t life’s problems be easily solved?

Well, sadly that is not the case….

Worry is not caused by externalities in our life. It is only created, imagined, and toyed around all in our mind.

Think about the last time you felt anxiety and worried. Did it neccessarily involve the lack of money? Perhaps while you were walking down the street and some people stared at you: you felt worried it may be something wrong with your look. Or what about the financial crisis all over the papers, and talks of retrenchment arising? Did it cause you to worry?

Talks of retrenchment did not cause worry for you. Neither did the person staring at you while you were walking down the street. YOU caused your worrying thoughts.
I’ll go more in-depth on the thoughts we have in another post…meanwhile,
Think happy thoughts and you’ll be happy.

Try it!
Jeff

My name is Jeff Lam, and I welcome you to this site.

Most likely you found this site by searching for techniques and methods to stop worrying. That’s good, at least you are taking steps to find out how you can help it. At least you are mature enough to understand that worrying solves nothing. A step taken is better than none. Now let me carry you on the rest of the journey

On this site I’ll provide information and methods to help you:

• Understand why you worry
• How worrying can cause youharm
• How worrying is caused by youself, and not others
• How you use some methods to stop worrying fast
• How to prevent you from worrying in the future

I’ll try to provide as much information in video forms, pictures, articles and what not. I’ll even touch into NLP (Neuro-Linguistic-Programming).
And so who am I? Why should you even bother to listen to me? I’m not anyone, just your average human. I cannot even claim that I’m an expert in stopping myself from worrying at times..but I’m here to learn and to help you. And maybe, life would be better for you and me.

Till then,
Jeff